Ethan Plath Writes Olivia a Letter ‘Letting Her Go’

Ethan and Olivia Plath are saying goodbye for the ultimate time.

On the Aug. 13 episode of Welcome to Plathville, the previous couple met to complete checking out the final of their issues earlier than leaving their shared Minnesota house for good. When Ethan realized that Olivia did not need to hold many sentimental objects, equivalent to their pictures collectively, he requested her why she wasn’t struggling extra to maneuver on.

“There’s stuff that she threw away that I used to be like, ‘Why’d you throw that away?’” he informed the cameras. “I imply, however she’s at all times been like that. Like when she cuts one thing out of her life, it is gone and she or he by no means seems to be again. And I do know if she will try this together with her circle of relatives, I do not stand an opportunity.”

He then mentioned to her, “I really feel like you do not care and it infuriates me. I really feel caught and for the lifetime of me I can not seem to do something about it, however you do not have that downside.”

She defined that she does care, however that they had been separated for 9 months and she or he had been grieving the lack of their relationship lengthy earlier than that.

“It has been a couple of years value of watching the connection die and preventing to put it aside and never with the ability to, after which simply lastly accepting it and transferring on,” she mentioned. “So I used to be simply hoping he was going to work via issues on his personal and he hasn’t.”

Ethan confessed that he by no means thought their breakup could be everlasting, even reflecting again on their greatest combat the place he mentioned he “couldn’t stand [it] anymore.”

“I actually thought that we’d combat about it for like per week after which we’d begin engaged on it,” he mentioned.

“Yeah, properly, you sort of did that so much,” she replied. “It was not a wholesome relationship.”

Though Ethan mentioned he believed they may have made issues higher, Olivia maintained that she disagreed.

“I feel the way in which that issues are enjoying out between Ethan and I is a direct image of what occurred in our marriage, of me saying, ‘This does not work, this must occur, this must be fastened,’ and him placing his head within the sand or beneath the hood of a automotive,” she mentioned in her confessional. “After which when issues disintegrate, saying, ‘I simply do not perceive what occurred.’”

At that time, Ethan determined it could be finest to depart, and he acknowledged that “it’s simply denial” that was holding him again from signing the divorce papers.

Later, Olivia went via previous pictures from the start of their marriage, and realized that they have been simply “two youngsters who didn’t know what they have been doing.”

“It is laborious to see Ethan on this a lot ache and struggling this a lot with all the pieces, however I spent years logged down in stress and being on the opposite aspect of issues,” she mentioned. “I’ve realized that I felt extra alone after I was in a relationship than I do being on my own.”

Olivia admitted that she nonetheless has love for Ethan, however she additionally felt like she wasn’t “adequate” for him and by no means could be. She went on to say she wasn’t going to make it her “job” to repair him.

“We did not mesh and we weren’t appropriate in quite a lot of methods,” she mentioned.

Again at his place, Ethan sat down to put in writing a letter for Olivia, which she requested him to do as an alternative of sharing together with her in particular person.

“I mainly wrote in my observe that I used to be sorry for all of the ways in which I fell brief in our relationship that introduced us so far and I hope that she finds what I could not or did not give her,” he revealed. “I want her one of the best and I really like her and if there’s something that she ever wants, I will assist her as finest I can.”

He famous that the letter was “my approach of letting her go,” although he didn’t need to.

“I positively suppose that I’ve extra completely happy recollections together with her than unhealthy recollections, however the completely happy recollections are simply as painful as what you’d contemplate a foul reminiscence,” he mentioned. “I positively do really feel like me and Olivia grew up collectively. We stepped out on this planet collectively on our personal. We gave it an excellent run, however not all the pieces works.”

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