Maid of Honor Says Bride Will not Take away Pictures of Her With out Hijab

• A lady serving as maid of honor in her good friend’s marriage ceremony felt snug to take away her hijab within the firm of different bridesmaids throughout a girls-only bachelorette journey
• Pictures have been taken that night time, however the authentic poster (OP) believed they’d be saved non-public, till she was tagged in pictures on Instagram
• OP is being labeled as troublesome for asking for the pictures to be taken down, inflicting strife between her and the bride

A lady took to Reddit to search out out if she was within the incorrect after a scenario arose whereas she was collaborating in her good friend’s marriage ceremony.

The unique poster (OP) shared her story in Reddit’s r/AmITheA—— subreddit, the place she defined how she got here into battle along with her lifelong greatest good friend over the occasions at her bachelorette social gathering.

OP started her submit by explaining that as a Muslim lady, she chooses to put on a hijab.

“I cowl my hair and most of my physique. I don’t choose those that do not do the identical, nor do I attempt to impose my beliefs onto others. Everybody can have their very own private journeys, and simply as I do know I am not good, I am unable to choose others for it both,” she explains.

The 23-year-old traveled with associates to a girls’s-only bachelorette social gathering for her good friend, whom she has recognized “since kindergarten.”

“She is not spiritual, however she accepts my views and was even going to let me put on a extra modest type abaya as her maid of honor. That is to say Maya understands the hijab and what it means to me, or so I assumed,” she notes.

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OP explains that in the course of the night’s festivities, within the lead-up to everybody going to mattress, she took off her hijab. The second itself was uneventful and the night time went on, and the ladies “watched a film, took pictures and movies, and usually had fun.”

“I had no issues with the pictures being taken, since my associates are often respectful and do not submit them wherever. It simply stays in our group chat,” she explains. “We went to sleep, and the following day, every thing was regular. We cleaned up and I drove house, lastly checking my telephone.”

When OP went on Instagram, she discovered she was tagged in pictures on Maya’s public Instagram account, together with ones the place her hijab wasn’t on.

“I rapidly messaged Maya, asking her to take it down earlier than anybody else noticed, as I could not management whether or not or not some man was going to see her submit, and she or he refused, saying that there have been no different good pictures of her,” OP writes.

“I requested her to easily crop me out and even draw over my hair and neck however she mentioned that it could look incorrect and that I am overreacting. I insisted I wasn’t and that she knew that I could not present my hair to only anybody,” she continues.

“As a substitute of responding to me, she took it to the group chat as some type of ‘counsel.’ Half of them agreed that she should not have posted a photograph of me with out my hijab and a pair others advised me I used to be overreacting and nobody cared moreover me.”

Those that agreed with OP petitioned Maya to take the pictures down. Although she initially stood her floor, an replace reveals that her fiancé moving into the dialog modified her perspective.

“He is Christian, however from what I perceive, his mom veils and he understands the foundations round hijab a great bit. He felt dangerous and I needed to reassure him that it wasn’t his fault and thanked him for speaking to Maya for me. He requested if this complete scenario would have an effect on our friendship, and I advised him I wasn’t positive in what manner.”

Although OP says she’s since forgiven the bride, many commenters had robust feeling concerning the scenario and the stance they really feel she ought to have taken.

“She’s not your good friend. If a good friend of mine requested me to take away a photograph with them in it, for WHATEVER purpose, they’d be faraway from the photograph earlier than the day ended. My associates can belief me 100% that I will not put them ready that makes them uncomfortable,” one commenter wrote.

“However, at this level, you haven’t any management. You possibly can ask her to take away the photograph, however you possibly can’t management it. Be taught from this and do not belief her once more. You possibly can’t let your guard down round everybody.”

One other particular person added, “I’m a hijabi who’s MOH for considered one of my greatest associates who’s non-Muslim. I additionally went on a bachelorette journey and there have been tons of candids with me not carrying a hijab. I despatched her your authentic submit and she or he was furious in your behalf.”

The commenter continued, “I can’t even think about what I might do if she did what your good friend did. It was so insanely inappropriate of her to submit these pictures and downright despicable to not instantly take them down once you requested. You’re extra forgiving than me.”